life lessons v0.0001

intro#

I dont know how im going to structure this one not gonna lie. Something i've been doing more recently that is trying to follow things that i agree with even if its hard. Which, can be hard... pretty simple, to help with that i wrote some stuff down on things i live by, i dont know why im publicizing it, maybe you can learn something, maybe you cant. i dont know maybe all my morals and things i live by are bad. Actually, now that im writing it. I think you should criticize my morals and ethics in my dms on discord, thats probably the best way to go about being a better person

everyones lived longer then their age#

I hope the way i order these helps with context to later parts. But I want to clear this out of the way. Everyone in society believes that they have lived through some of the most traumatic and crazy experiences, thats simply because you can only truly relate to your own experience, if you havent lived something you cannot 100% recreate it. That being said, this works in vice versa, people cannot relate to your own experience. Even then it is all subjective, can you really say for sure that your experience was more traumatic anyway? How would you compare, no idea we havent figured that out yet. Some people are stronger then others, some are weaker, some are more capable. Its all subjective, which goes to say that as a general principal I try to put other peoples struggles at the same level as mine to which i feel for mine, I think this helps me relate to people deeply and actually feel empathy. Which for a long time, even now, I still struggle with.

you arent a good person#

Controversial take, but ill be the first to admit it, im not a good person, i never have been. does that make me a bad person? no. I do good things and i also do bad things, i am 21 years old. I think being able to come to terms with this, which is something i have struggled the most with, is one of the most important lessons you can learn in life, atleast at my point i wouldnt know what the most valuable lesson is im 21 years old. But, people do bad things, and that doesnt make them bad people, and bad people arent nessecarily bad, the human mind is vast. When i refer to bad Im not speaking about killing, raping, or even cheating on your partner. There are small things everyday that you do that are bad. There are also big things you do that bad. I have hurt people with my words, many people probably, I take people in my life for granted, I have used people for personal gain. At the same time, I have started nonprofits, raised money for kids from broken homes, i have shown people what someone being there for you means, i have been there for people in their darkest day, ive apologized and changed for people. Once you can overcome the fact that you will do bad and good, i think life becomes alot easier.

fast learning#

If you ever wanted to learn how people learn fast, personally i believe it comes natural, its a mix of genetics and alot to do with how you grew up. I think you can still learn to ingest topics fast. Force yourself to be uncomfortable, thats how it happens, when adrenaline hits, what do you do? If you can feel adrenaline when you learn something new, it will naturally ingest faster

zero sum game#

Something i started learning early is that life, is zero sum, just because someone else wins doesnt mean you nessecarily lost, and just because someone is winning that doesnt mean you have to be bitter. At my lowest, 5 years ago, I was bitter watching other people be in places i knew i could be but for reasons i will not disclose, wasnt. It took time to realize that if my friend wins and i dont, it doesnt mean that i lose, it means that they won and thats great for them. If anything, something ive learned especially in college, is that if my friends, i also win in some way. there is a benefit from other people winning in my life winning, it either boosts morale for me to win aswell, or gives me some benefit, (carlos and his codex). Something i live by and something i have been really good at in the past year is not seeing competition as me vs someone else, its me vs myself and then me vs world.

be nice#

out of everything on this list, this is the one im most terrible at. Coming off nice is almost impossible for me, im very monotone and extremely blunt. ive had to work with this for the majority of my life, i try to compensate for this with caring. If you have a conversation with me, ill listen, im extremely attentative or try to be.

optimism#

Something ive always been is optimistic, i think my past has shaped me into becoming more and more optimistic the whole time. This sets up failure quite well. If I fail, its okay, I can succeed here, or just dont let it happen again. No problem. Logically to me, there is alot going on in todays world. Things are changing, the world is dying, people are dying, people are probably using you for personal gain. yes all ARE true, now what? Alot of people i have met in my life sit on it and get so caught up in the bad, so much so that they tend to over estimate how bad things are and start overthinking things that arent even bad. You tend to lose yourself when you overwhelm yourself with bad. There is alot of bad and its easy to get overwhelmed, but the way i see it is that there is also so much good in the world, so many good things to look forward to or to appreciate. People, places, things. The world is vast and so are people, thats advantageous.

getting lost#

This is something that i still have to struggle severely with. I tend to lose myself when there is something i want. I will continously take concessions until im no longer myself. Im very close to understanding i feel, you need concessions in life and you need tradeoffs, your supposed to grow with what you do. However, you also need to set your own concessions and trade offs so you can also be satisfied. It will be worse outcome overall if both arent satisfied. You will become worse and therefore your work will become worse, so on so forth. When this happens, its no ones fault nessecarily, its both parties faults. It is mostly on you though.

balance#

I think alot of this can be summed up with the fact that i am slowly understanding the concept of balance. In order to be happy, you need balance, not only, but understand balance in every aspect of life. whether you are good or bad, optimism vs pessimisim, etc. Some aspects in life i am great but there are some fundamental pieces where i am bad, there is also balance there. making me human.